posted 26 Sep 2010, 03:22 by Mpelembe Admin
updated 26 Sep 2010, 03:23
You should not feel bad if self-confidence doesn't just ooze
out of your pores. Lots of people have experiences that lead
them to become self-conscious and to think less of themselves
than they should. We are all influenced by different things,
but we can all feel down sometimes and somehow it's always
easier to be more critical of ourselves than we are of
others. Comparison, however, are a bad idea. They lead to
feelings of inadequacy, leaving us feeling like we should be
something we never can.
These seven tips are written to help you see that you have
worth just how you are. What needs to change is your
attitude and your self-perception.
1. Practice looking confident. Get away from those
pessimistic thoughts just long enough to work on displaying
yourself in a way that looks confident—whether you
feel like it or not. Hold your shoulders back and your head
up. Look up with your head held high; don't stare at the
ground or ponder your shoelaces. Sometimes all it takes is
acting confident to be confident.
2. Stop subscribing to Cosmo and all of those fashion
magazines unless you are willing to accept that those models
and celebrities are totally airbrushed. Not even the models
look like that. Fancy lighting and heavy makeup can make
anyone look good. Your friends and family don't love you
because you look like a model. So you don't have to hate
yourself for not looking like one.
3. Devote your spare time to a new hoppy. Get involved with
something that interests you and has the potential to make
you feel better about yourself. Learn military self defense
at a self defense training course. Or, if it's easier start
training with a Self Defense DVD. Take a cooking class,
enroll in a pottery or photography class. Learn a new
language or learn to play a new instrument. But do something
to expand your horizons.
4. Set new goals and track your progress. Start small if you
need to or plan big. Save money for that vacation you always
wanted to take or write that play you've had bouncing around
in your brain for the past 5 years.
5. Challenge yourself to do something good for yourself
every day. Meditate, take a walk, read a new book, cook
yourself a healthy meal—do whatever you need to relax.
6. Look for ways to change your perspective and be the kind
of person you admire. Journal your thoughts and write down
what you like about yourself. Then write down things that
you want to be able to say about yourself and look for ways
to be more patient, funny, bold, free, honest, and loyal.
Imitate the characteristics you admire in the people you
love. And be brave enough to say out loud what you like
7. Take time to think about the really big, important
things. Believe in something bigger you are and realize that
the world doesn't depend on you being America's Next Top
Model to get something of value from your life.
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